Category: Marriage

From Vows to Victories: 30 Years of Marriage and Parenthood

Posted on by Jeff Cassman

Today marks an extraordinary milestone: the 30th anniversary of our marriage. It is a day of reflection, gratitude, and awe for the divine grace that has sustained us through three decades of love, trial, challenge, and commitment.

Thirty years ago, we stood before God, family, and friends on a hot summer day in west Nashville, pledging to love and cherish each other for better or worse, in sickness and in health. Little did we know the incredible journey that lay ahead, a journey illuminated by laughter, love, sweat, tears, and the blessing of our 14 children.

In those early days, we faced open resistance and hostility from family members who doubted our union, questioned our choices, and did everything possible to prevent our happiness and marriage. These challenges tested our resolve and faith, teaching us the powerful lesson of the importance of companionship, fortitude, and forgiveness. Forgiving those who never apologized required immense strength and grace, but it freed us to build a life based on love, not resentment.

We spent our honeymoon in a Uhaul, driving from Nashville to Davis-Monthan AFB to establish our home in a dark one-bedroom apartment. I went to school at night, worked a second job and deployed around the world while you nurtured #1 and #2.

That was just the beginning of a marathon of unwavering dedication, boundless love, and enduring patience.

Our marriage is a song of fire and ice, joy and sorrow, strength and vulnerability, hope and forgiveness. We’ve faced trials that … Read the rest

A Covenant of Love

Posted on by Jeff Cassman
I wrote this prayer for husbands and wives to say together each night. Please offer your suggestions for improving it. Be gentle.
In the quiet of this night, we come together, O Lord, united in holy matrimony, and in awe of Your infinite love and mercy. We bow our heads and lift our hearts, offering You the day’s joys, works, and struggles. We thank You for the grace that sustains our union, a testament of Your divine love.
Lord Jesus, we humbly ask for the grace to grow in holiness each day. May our hearts be ever turned towards You, seeking Your will in every moment. Grant us a love for one another that reflects Your own unending love, a love that is patient, kind, and forgiving. Bestow upon us the strength to bear wrongs patiently, and the wisdom to understand and forgive as You forgive us.
We implore the special intercession of Saint Joseph, a model of unwavering faith and humble service. May his righteous spirit guide our actions, fostering a home of virtue, respect, and loving kindness. Under his watchful eye, may we labor diligently and rest peacefully, entrusting our earthly cares to his holy intercession.
We seek the tender embrace of our Blessed Virgin Mary, Mother of God and our mother. May her immaculate heart be our refuge and her virtues our path. In her grace, may we find the courage to sacrifice, to give without counting the cost, and to love without measure.
Together, hand in
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The Courageous, True Story of a Little Girl, Her Daddy and a Bad Priest

Posted on by Jeff Cassman

So… What should Mom and Dad have done differently? I will weigh in later so my ideas don’t poison the well.

It was 1963 and I had just turned twelve.

I’d gotten my period a year before and was developing faster than most girls in my class. Where they were still short, rosy-cheeked, and flat-chested, I was six inches taller, growing into a B-cup, and getting acne. It was an awkward, confusing time for me.

Sadly, my mother was pre-occupied with her newest baby and my other eight siblings. Dad was mostly at work trying to make enough money to keep us all in parochial schools. I often felt alone and—like most kids that age–unable to share my feelings with my parents. Thank God for Celestine, our full-time housekeeper who was a sweet, second mother to me. She’d watched us kids outside playing and heard some of the neighborhood kids making comments. She promptly dragged me down to the five-and-dime to buy me my first bra.

“We don’t need those nasty boys looking down your blouse,” I remember her saying.

I know she was trying to protect me, but somehow, I got the message that there was something shameful about me in the word nasty and the fact that I had breasts.

Nonetheless, I knew I was “becoming a woman” and it was (for vague reasons) something special that should be celebrated, and something precious that should be safeguarded. I just wished I’d had an older sister or someone to

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War on Men: Feminism Has Destroyed Marriage

Posted on by Jeff Cassman

“A wife who belittles her husband, cuts him down, nitpicks him relentlessly, holds her affection — both physical and emotional — as a ransom, nags him endlessly, criticizes him constantly, humiliates him in public and to her friends and in front of the children, and will not allow him to take a leadership position in the home, cannot be terribly surprised when he begins to withdraw. And if he cheats — which would be a great and indefensible evil, no matter how cold and domineering his wife may be — it cannot be said that he was the first. She cheated him; she lied to him, by promising to respect him and treat him like a man, only to turn around and treat him like a child.”

https://www.dailywire.com/news/24676/walsh-most-effective-way-destroy-your-husband-ruin-matt-walsh#exit-modal… Read the rest